Reno News and Review August 17, 2006

Reno News and Review August 17, 2006: "There's a Friday night dinner party in a neighborhood near West McCarran Boulevard. Someone opens a bottle of red and a bottle of white and puts them within easy reach on a faux-granite-topped kitchen island. Someone lights the gas grill in a neat but not-yet-landscaped yard. A toddler dodges under the table to pet the dog. The person toting diapers and a bottle isn't a mom, though. All the guests are men.

The host is Tim Miles, an Internet technology consultant with a shy smile that makes him look a little younger than his 32 years. He's gay. Some of his friends are gay. Most aren't. Their orientation doesn't really matter to him.

If you were looking for 'gay' stereotypes at his dinner party, you could find a few. The guys are drinking good wine instead of beer; the place is decorated a lot better than your average bachelor pad; the white china and heavy silverware are perfectly matched.

Making a list of 'guy' stereotypes is easier. While digesting their perfectly grilled steak, Miles' friends splay out on overstuffed leather couches and argue over which of the hundreds of cable channels they're going to watch. The guy holding the remote eventually stops listening. They watch a special on fighter jets for a few minutes, then continue channel surfing.

For Miles, being gay isn't a matter of identity politics. He does"